From Scratch

As time passes in any relationship it is easy for things to be routine. Even in simple friendships do things become routine. With routines come the perpetuation of bad habits. Quite often the bad habits become the focus of the relationship for both parties involved. For many marriages this is the point where spouses call it quits. Be it after 1 year of 27 years, they just can't do it anymore and call it quits.

Now I'm not marriage counselor...heck I can't even get a boyfriend but given my interactions with friends and loved ones I think when things become routine and you find yourself dwelling on those negatives stop and think. Think back to what attracted you to the other. Find a way get back to that beginning stage of exploration. Some people are going to say "But I know all there is to know about my spouse (or friend)." I hate to break it to you but people change. If your memory is a lot better than mine ask old questions and see if the answer changes. Try new things together, try old things together. Try to bring that fire back.

If after all of that you realise that it's just not going to work out at least you know you gave it your all. If it does work out then you've gotten a new leaf on life.

My two cents.

-The Empress

Do You Know Justin Case?

It's not often that I circulate other posts from other blogs or websites but this one was a must.

Do You Know Justin Case? I'm sure you're probably wondering who is Justin Case...read and you will find out.

Excellent job by The YnP writer Ashni Ramsammy.


-The Empress

Forgiveness

Most of us have done things we're not proud of in our lives. Some of us have had a hard time dealing with our sins, but eventually we come to terms with our error and forgive ourselves. There will always be those people that try to hold things over your head. They never forget the time you did this, or said that. They never want to see you pick up the pieces of your life, lick your wounds and heal.

If you have found the strength to forgive yourself for your sins, why should you let the opinions of others determine whether you heal or not? God will judge me accordingly. I don't need your judgement as well. Keep it to yourself. Let me move on with my life and make myself a better person. I would want the same for you as well.

-The Empress

My Inspiration. My All

I have had this poem chilling for quite some time. I've felt like I never finished it and really wanted to, but I'm beginning to wonder if I ever will. I've decided to share it with you and let you know that I have no plans to complete it. It shall remain incomplete.

Silence; seated; awe.

Just listen to the majesty.
Who cares for the fountain of youth when
this fountain flows with truth
and hides not behind lies of tainted windows and politrix and common myths.
So brilliant and radiant are the droplets that escape its source
and blessed I am
I am considered blessed to touch,
not even taste,
this water so true.
How can you deny this fountain to be majestic and amazing?
This fountain spits fire and ice,
warmed water from it's core
trickles down like none other,
touches me sensually, metaphysically,
socially and emotionally
so much so that I want more.

Thanks for reading!

-Black Hippie 758

Strength. Courage. Wisdom

A fitting song for the morning. My reminder of the woman I want to be - one that is strong, courageous and wise - learning not only from my mistakes but from those of others. Today I have decided to be that woman that everyone sees in me. I have decided to open up my heart and be anything that I want to be. Nothing shall stop me. And despite the fact that in the future I may fall or falter, I shall not remain down or broken. I shall rise and rise shall I, to amazing heights.



Thank you to everyone who made my birthday a day of fun, simplicity and learning.

Words of Encouragement

Don't give up on a dream. If you want it bad enough it will scare you but you will need to be brave and press on. Obstacles will get in your way and the easiest thing may be to give up; but you are more than that. You have more strength within you to keep on fighting and keep on pushing to achieve that dream; to make it a reality. Whenever you feel unmotivated or restless or frustrated, remember the dream. Picture the joy of achieving it and thinking I finally did it!

The Coded Explanation

I put you on a pedestal
And some how it got away.
Elevated to such great heights
that I feel like
you are beyond my reach.

So instead of trying to rise to an insurmountable level
I sit at the knees of a mountain
and wait
for the day
when miraculously I fly
into the sky
and join you on that pedestal.

The Jovial Truth

Have ever looked at someone in the mid/late 20s, 30s, 40s, 50, even 60s and beyond and see a little spark of fire in their eye and a natural glow on their skin? Ever wonder what it is that gives them that desired aura? There may be other reasons for this but I am convinced being youthful in spirit is one of them.

When last did you have fun like a child? I mean coloured in a colouring book, dance around your living room like a complete idiot, wrote/told a story about superheroes and monsters or far away places? When last did you feed your imagination with something and let it rawr in excitement? Don't stifle yourself because "you're an adult now." Keep your mind active and have fun doing it. Write a story for your daughter/niece about a princess (or Empress) that was strong and courageous. Build a bed sheet fort in your living room with your son. And if you don't have children in your life play games with your friends, finger paint. Indulge in the (right) things of the youth.

Have fun!

-The Empress

A Beautiful Mind

There is a world beyond just physical attraction. A world when conversations stimulate brain cells and leave one thirsty for more knowledge. There is a world beyond hot, sweaty bodies moving rhythmically in the dead of the night (or in the middle of the day). A world where emotions are explored and personalities are discovered.

In such a highly sexual age and highly technological age, there's something to be said about people who desire physical interactions, those who book face time...and not the app kind. There is only so much you can say about yourself with words. And then there's so much more you say with your actions, reactions, emotions, body language, and etc. 

I happen to admire persons who still want to practice the art of reading and deciphering body language. I admire and appreciate people who want to spend time talking and getting to know each other. I admire people who can have mentally stimulating conversations. Clearly there's a lot about me you don't know. I suggest get to know me before you make your assumptions, because for sure they're only making an ASS out of U and not me.

An Empress Can Dream

My friend Ashni shared a song with me and I feel like it's changed my life! Okay not really but it's been on repeat for hours on end. My neighbours are probably sick of it.

The song is Adorn by Miguel. The words just touch me. They are the words that I want a man to sing to me. "Let my love adorn you."

If I could sing I would want this as my wedding song, where my husband and I sing the song to each other. But since I can't sing I'll take him singing to me :). If I couldn't wait til my wedding day I'd want him to never sing this song to me until he was proposing. I don't care where we were, he'd just start singing the song and then go down on one knee and ask me to marry him. He'd probably give a speech about how he knew from the first day he saw me that I was the one for him, or something more creative hahaha. But in any case. If an Empress could dream, she'd dream of being proposed that way.

"These lips can't wait to taste your skin. And these eyes can't wait to see your grin. Just let my love, let my love adorn you. You gotta know, you gotta know that I adore you. Baby these fits, will always protect you. And this mind will never neglect you..."

These lines are so beautiful. How can you not want someone ask to let their love adorn you?