I am concerned about a friend of mine. There is a yearning within me to mentally engaged with this friend but he seems to not want the same. Maybe I shouldn't say he seems not to want the same, but rather it appears that he isn't seeking the same thing at this current moment. My desire may have stemmed from the fact that many other male friends I have have been able to engage me in deep dialogue on a plethora of topics and even with common topics of life there is some depth the conversation. I understand that not everyone is the same, and this one friend may not be able to compare with my older friends. I was having a conversation with one of my girlfriends who knows this new friend and explained my desire for depth to her and she said something very profound to me - "what if he doesn't have the capacity to do so?" This had never crossed my mind until she said it, but a part of me doesn't want to believe it. I feel as if there is something there, that he has some depth to him, and it may be that it needs to be encouraged and cultured. I would be more than willing to help stimulate that sector of his brain which will stimulate mine as well.
My biggest problem now is how do I test out my hypothesis? How do I get a topic that I think is deep, but not too far in, mentally stimulating as well as something that one can formulate an opinion on regardless of the depth of their knowledge on it? It is difficult for me to begin the conversation about x, y and z but it almost pains me to not do it. I don't want to be awkward, nor do I want my friend to feel awkward as well. Does anyone have suggestions as to how I can ease us into a dialogue?
Thanks for reading my pondering and feel free to leave me a comment with some help. Greatly appreciated.
- The Empress
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