I recently tweeted that as a single woman I have decided to no longer give my friends in relationships advice. It makes perfect sense to me though. A friend who was/is (I really don't know his status to be honest) was the one who posted something similar on Facebook.
Why would you take relationship advice from a single person. After all look at their situation/circumstance.Now don't get me wrong, I'm not saying that persons in relationships are to judge persons who are single (don't be judging me now!) but let's be logical. It's true you love your girl friend and she gets you but she gets single you, the you you were possibly before you got into the relationship. When you're in relationship true you're suppose to be yourself, but you also should compromise and all that other jazzy stuff. Try to work things out. Be respectful. You know what I'm trying to say. A single person easily says bleep it, I'm gone. Why are you trying to control me. I just wanna be freeeeeeeee!!! Okay, maybe not all single people, but you catch my drift.
The reason why I decided to shut my mouth and hold my corner was because I love my friends and want the best for them. If a friend comes to me and asks for my advice about relationship related things I tend to ask a lot of questions before I answer. And even when I answer I usually have my disclaimer "This is coming from a single woman who has spent that vast majority of her entire LIFE single."
I recently was in a situation and needed relationship advice (I'm still single for the record). When it came down to it, based on what I wanted I decided to ask a male friend who has been in a relationship for a few years for his advice. The advice he gave may have come from a single friend, but it may not have.
Think about where you want to be and seek advice from those who are where you want to be. If you aspire to be dentist, you won't ask a tattoo artist how to get there. Food for thought.
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