Self Servicing

Whether you call it self servicing, alone time, or a date with pam and/or pamela, masturbating is actually beneficial to your health (and to some people, their sanity).

Some benefits of masturbation (for women) include:

• Relieves urinary tract infections and helps prevents cervical infections
• Lowers your risk of type-2 diabetes
• Improves your cardiovascular health

Some benefits for men include:

• Stimulates the immune system
• Decreases the incidence of prostrate cancer

Some benefits to both men and women include:

• Relieves stress and improves our mood
• Relieves insomnia
• Knowing what arouses you sexually. Having sex and not knowing what really turns you on and off is not enjoyable for your partner, nor for yourself. Taking time to masturbate and explore your sexual desires helps you decide what's a "oh yes baby!" and a "ummm can you stop that"

As with everything in life, if you overdo it, there are some serious problems. I'll let you look up those for yourself

And because there is because I can, a video from @ThatDudeMCFLY and @LaithHPoetry on masturbation

So go forth into a comfortable place and play with yourself!! Enjoy!!

The benefits of masturbation were taken from http://www.womentowomen.com/sexualityandfertility/healthbenefitsofmasturbation.aspx and http://www.spermbankcalifornia.com/male-masturbation.html

Natural Belle: The Documentary: Dark Girls

Every so often I come across something that is well worth sharing. This is something you SHOULD watch, and we can possibly have a discussion on it.

Natural Belle: The Documentary: Dark Girls: "Dark Girls: Preview from Bradinn French on Vimeo ."

Seeds We Sow

Kaiso!! It's the carnival season in Saint Lucia and calypso is a major part of the festivities. It is common place for calypsos to act as social commentaries, addressing the issues we face in the country and this one is no exception.

My good friend and colleague Chanel Christophe has co-written an excellent kaiso alongside the performer of the piece - Ronald Francis called Seeds We Sow. This calypso was performed for the Inter-commercial House Calypso Competition. I do not know if this piece won, but I surely hope the message of the piece was received.

Enjoy.

Hair Scans

I really love this tumblr blog - http://hairscans.tumblr.com/

I submitted one of my own scans, after trying to figure out how the heck do I use my scanner to do scans...you would think it would be as simple as pressing the Scan button on the device but nooooo it isn't. Anyways, I digress. This is the scan I submitted entitled "Floral and Naps"

I also did another one that I did not submit but will share with you

And yes I know that I could have rotated them, but I like them in this orientation. I shall continue to experiment with the hair scans adding petals, grass, fabric, words, etc to it until I have my very own hair scan portfolio.


What do you think about the idea of hair scans? Let me know...leave a comment below!

xxxo
Shani Vee

Blown Like An Appliance

There's something about the truth that gets under your skin.

I don't usually do two posts in a day, but this! this I had to share. It could not wait.

My dear friend Daryl Dujon, posted this link on my Facebook wall and I must admit that when I was done reading and listening I didn't know what to do with myself. It was like I was in a coma and I had just woken up. Simply amazing. I beg you, have a look and listen to this - http://arcthemagazine.com/arc/2011/07/de-art-junket-presents-armed-with-words/ - comment here, comment there, circulate the link, make it a discussion. Wow...I can't even finish typing. My mind is still trying to collect itself after that.

WOW!


Just, just go check it out. You won't regret it.

I'm A Big Kid Now

Part of me wants to say I wish I were a child again, or I wish I didn't have to be an adult and grow up. But I know, if I say that, it will be a lie. I do enjoy being an adult and making certain decisions. Obviously some decisions are not as simple as chocolate cake or chocolate ice cream, and some require more thought and processing.

A "friend" of mine (yes, I'm back with the quotation marks) suggested that I come to visit him. If I bought the airline ticket he would take care of accommodation and everything else during my stay. Having not spent any quality time with my "friend" I jump at the opportunity. I start looking at flights and look at my schedule to see when can I get the cheapest flight out of my available "vacations." I found one available in October and said okay I'm coming then. We're both very excited at the opportunity to be engrossed in each other completely for 10 days. When all of this happened, I was dead broke and knew I had a good pay cheque coming in the following week, so I wasn't too worried about it. As time passed, and the days went by, getting closer and closer to when I receive my wages, reality started to sink in. If reality were a person, I'd punch it right there and then, but alas it's not. The truth started to creep around me like fog coming from a harbor or smoke from burning incense. The reality is that I have other responsibilities I should take care of. I don't want to say instead of spending it on a plane ticket to go somewhere. I should be helping my dad who is my provider while at university. I mean my dad has been there for me well before university, so if I can help him out and ease his load, why not right? I also a bit of debt that if I can, I should pay off right? All these things start sinking in and I beginning to subconsciously weigh in everything. The final decision is that I am not travelling, or at least not as intended, and I am going to be responsible and adult as my "friend" put it and pay my school fees or something of that sort.

This was a difficult decision for me because I have matured and I have become more responsible mentally. If I hadn't I would have easily said I don't care, I want to travel, I want to see my "friend," I'm going. But because of this maturity and this growth the reality and needs were stacked up against the wants and although there were close, the needs won. It's tough being an adult, but even with that, I still don't think I'd want to wear baby diapers again.

And it hit me...

I have this "friend" (and yes I did use quotation marks) that really inspires me. By day he is a mild mannered mail man but by night he transforms into...okay I'm just being silly. My "friend" (yes I am going to use quotation marks every time) is a poet, singer and in my mind at least an activist. He's an artsy kinda man and he inspires me to continue exploring the arts.

I was speaking to him this morning and said "you know last night just before I fell asleep I was thinking I wish I could sing as well as you do, and could write amazing things like you do. Then I thought about us and it hit me (like a tonne of bricks) that I actually complement you. You sing and write poetry and I dance. How cool would it be if we performed together?" [that was more or less the conversation...although there are quotes that's not exactly how it went down, anyways...I digress]. It was in that moment I realised hey, I'm not half as bad as I think I am. I may not be able to write emotion evoking poetry or sing like the angels in heaven, but what I can do if paired with those talents that I don't have, can create something so amazingly beautiful that it's okay if I can't do those things. What I can do, if I do it beyond the best of my ability will carry me to be beautifully creative and an emotion evoking dancer. And I smiled (a big wide toothy smile) and felt proud of my contribution to life.

We may admire and even desire things in others. Sometimes we can work and develop such skills and/or talents that we admire, and other times we can't. We should look within ourselves and see what can add to that pot that we so desire, to create something even more amazing, even more beautiful, even more inspiring.

Be inspired. 
Go forth and inspire.

The Addiction

My addiction continues
until I OD and get over you
but only for a moment, relative to the movement of time
for in time
I'll be back, hooked on your every word,
your every desire;
hanging from your every thought
and every conversation.

My addiction continues
possibly until death
or some sort of an overload
from which I can no longer return.
My addiction continues,
but there must be a reason
why I can't get off  this drug.

Seconds,
Minutes,
Hours,
Days, weeks to months go by and I'm fine
until one day I get the sensation
to sample your sweetness
and I forget about the connection
and your power over me.

My drug, my poison,
I love how you consume me.

Life Is A...

Life is a:

• stage. Get ready to perform
• field. Get ready to play
• canvas. Get ready to paint
• plate. Get ready to cook.

Growth

I've said "maybe I''m getting old" but I think it's more of maybe I'm changing. The things that once satisfied me no longer do. I wonder if there's something wrong with me, but it dawned on me that there's nothing wrong with change. I should embrace this change I am experiencing internally. I should explore it and find out what can satisfy me and make me feel good and happy. At this point in my life I need this change, and I need to find out what will my new coordinates be.

To keep myself busy I've start crafting again and have made a few hair fascinators and probably will continue doing them. I'm trying to think what else can I engage in, what else can I explore especially given my current income and responsibilities. I don't have an answer as yet, but until the coordinates are set I will continue to ride the wave of change.

Wish me luck.