Friendship and Reciprocity

I'm not sure how many times I spoke about my expectations regarding friendship but I shall speak about it today.

I was having a conversation with a buddy of mine, Mike (not a sexual buddy for the record) and he mentioned some difficulty he was experiencing. My response to him was don't let it get to you. You tried and it's not working out. You have other things you need to focus your attention on; and furthermore, you should just surround yourself with positive people. No time for negativity. Later on that night I got into an argument and needed some moral and emotional support from a friend. Another friend of mine (Ashni) came to my rescue and gave me just what I needed whether or not I wanted it. I am so grateful for friends who are able to help me in my time of weakness; friends who can tell me what I would say to them if the tables were turned. Ashni provided a viewing of reality and the truth. Although I haven't cried enough yet (which isn't that good. I completely support and condone crying), I did cry and I have began healing.

I know that Mike would have been able to help me out the way Ashni did and again I say I am grateful to those persons I have in my life that I can lean on, count on, cry on and laugh with. These people help to make life worth living.

To all my friends, buddies, peoples I know, acquaintances, etc. Thank You for being in my life and making it worth living.

"To have a friend is to be a friend"

 Shani Vee

The Empress

Real Talk

I know we agreed to not talk about this again but I need to clear my chest so I can move on.

I know it, yet still I do contrary. After 8 years of being there for me, of frustrating me, almost getting me in trouble, making me laugh, smile and turning red like a tomato, you would think I would get it. You would think you would get it.

I don't know what to do. I want to love you and give you all of me...but the more I try and the more I think about it, the more I am beginning to think that maybe it shouldn't be. You love me for me. You see my genius, my brilliance, my beauty, my splendor, yet still I don't see half of what you see and I try to change like a sheep to please you.

We can't get married; not now, not soon. It's not that I don't love you, I do, and maybe I love you too much. But the reason why it can't happen is because I will never be happy, if now. I'm too fragile and malleable at this point and you need a rock, Xena Warrior Princess. Until that point when I can handle my own and be a strong woman not around everyone - just around you, then and only then will we be able to join in a union.

Having you end the argument is not the way for us to do things. It doesn't mean that I won. Getting you mad or flustered is not winning. This is not winning.

Sigh. Our relationship is frustrating me. I want it to work for me.

So much to learn. So much room to grow.

Your Nefertiti

The Verdict

I have deleted the newest blog and will keep Dancer's Feet and The Spotted Fashionista. Anything that I would have had to say in Green Eyes. Green Heart can be said here and tagged appropriately.

Thanks for bearing with me and my decisions.

The Jury Is Still Out

I'm still trying to decide what to do with my blogs. I currently have THREE and I think something needs to go. My latest blog is geared towards my major - an avenue to develop my professional opinion and share it with the world. I think that one is not working for me. It doesn't feel like the right move to make. Instead I could just use this blog to discuss such topics, so I might just delete that blog. And my fashion blog...it hasn't been really active either, but I'm not sure I want to transfer my fashion ideas to this blog. ARG!!! So many decisions!!

What do you suggest? What do you think I should do?

Life, According to Bill Gates

My mom sent me this email and I wanted to share it with you.

Bill Gates recently gave a speech at a High School about eleven (11) things they did not and will not learn in school.

 

He talks about how feel-good, politically correct teachings created a generation of kids with no concept of reality and how this concept set them up for failure in the real world.

Rule 1 : Life is not fair - get used to it!  

Rule 2 : The world doesn't care about your self-esteem. The world will expect you to accomplish something BEFORE you feel good about yourself.

Rule 3 : You will NOT make $60,000 a year right out of high school. You won't be a vice-president with a car phone until you earn both. 

Rule 4 : If you think your teacher is tough, wait till you get a boss.  

  

Rule 5 : Flipping burgers is not beneath your dignity. Your Grandparents had a different word for burger flipping: They called it opportunity.
 
Rule 6 : If you mess up, it's not your parents' fault, so don't whine about your mistakes, learn from them.
 
Rule 7 : Before you were born, your parents weren't as boring as they are now. They got that way from paying your bills, cleaning your clothes and listening to you talk about how cool you thought you were. So before you save the rain forest from the parasites of your parent's generation, try delousing the closet in your own room..
  
Rule 8 : Your school may have done away with winners and losers, but life HAS NOT. In some schools, they have abolished failing grades and they'll give you as MANY TIMES as you want to get the right answer.

*This doesn't bear the slightest resemblance to ANYTHING in real life.
 
 Rule 9 : Life is not divided into semesters. You don't get summers off and very few employers are interested in helping you FIND YOURSELF.

*Do that on your own time.

Rule 10 : Television is NOT real life. In real life people actually have to leave the coffee shop and go to jobs.
 

Rule 11 : Be nice to nerds.Chances are you'll end up working for one.

Self Servicing

Whether you call it self servicing, alone time, or a date with pam and/or pamela, masturbating is actually beneficial to your health (and to some people, their sanity).

Some benefits of masturbation (for women) include:

• Relieves urinary tract infections and helps prevents cervical infections
• Lowers your risk of type-2 diabetes
• Improves your cardiovascular health

Some benefits for men include:

• Stimulates the immune system
• Decreases the incidence of prostrate cancer

Some benefits to both men and women include:

• Relieves stress and improves our mood
• Relieves insomnia
• Knowing what arouses you sexually. Having sex and not knowing what really turns you on and off is not enjoyable for your partner, nor for yourself. Taking time to masturbate and explore your sexual desires helps you decide what's a "oh yes baby!" and a "ummm can you stop that"

As with everything in life, if you overdo it, there are some serious problems. I'll let you look up those for yourself

And because there is because I can, a video from @ThatDudeMCFLY and @LaithHPoetry on masturbation

So go forth into a comfortable place and play with yourself!! Enjoy!!

The benefits of masturbation were taken from http://www.womentowomen.com/sexualityandfertility/healthbenefitsofmasturbation.aspx and http://www.spermbankcalifornia.com/male-masturbation.html

Natural Belle: The Documentary: Dark Girls

Every so often I come across something that is well worth sharing. This is something you SHOULD watch, and we can possibly have a discussion on it.

Natural Belle: The Documentary: Dark Girls: "Dark Girls: Preview from Bradinn French on Vimeo ."

Seeds We Sow

Kaiso!! It's the carnival season in Saint Lucia and calypso is a major part of the festivities. It is common place for calypsos to act as social commentaries, addressing the issues we face in the country and this one is no exception.

My good friend and colleague Chanel Christophe has co-written an excellent kaiso alongside the performer of the piece - Ronald Francis called Seeds We Sow. This calypso was performed for the Inter-commercial House Calypso Competition. I do not know if this piece won, but I surely hope the message of the piece was received.

Enjoy.

Hair Scans

I really love this tumblr blog - http://hairscans.tumblr.com/

I submitted one of my own scans, after trying to figure out how the heck do I use my scanner to do scans...you would think it would be as simple as pressing the Scan button on the device but nooooo it isn't. Anyways, I digress. This is the scan I submitted entitled "Floral and Naps"

I also did another one that I did not submit but will share with you

And yes I know that I could have rotated them, but I like them in this orientation. I shall continue to experiment with the hair scans adding petals, grass, fabric, words, etc to it until I have my very own hair scan portfolio.


What do you think about the idea of hair scans? Let me know...leave a comment below!

xxxo
Shani Vee

Blown Like An Appliance

There's something about the truth that gets under your skin.

I don't usually do two posts in a day, but this! this I had to share. It could not wait.

My dear friend Daryl Dujon, posted this link on my Facebook wall and I must admit that when I was done reading and listening I didn't know what to do with myself. It was like I was in a coma and I had just woken up. Simply amazing. I beg you, have a look and listen to this - http://arcthemagazine.com/arc/2011/07/de-art-junket-presents-armed-with-words/ - comment here, comment there, circulate the link, make it a discussion. Wow...I can't even finish typing. My mind is still trying to collect itself after that.

WOW!


Just, just go check it out. You won't regret it.