Wasteless Worry

In 2 years time I will be attending my 10 year High School Reunion. A Facebook group was created and everyone was saying which part of the world they're in and what not, and my good friend from high school and I were Facebook creeping a few people (yes I won't lie about that) and seeing the success of others really did raise some worry within me. Now let's be real here...if I didn't worry I would be worried haha. I do worry a lot but it usually never continually consumes me. Anyway, we began talking about how different we are from some of our colleagues - still in school, just finishing, no serious fancy job lined up, single, no children etc. And for a moment I cracked jokes about creating this exciting new life for myself within the next two years that I can display to my colleagues when it hit both of us - all we have to do is be ourselves. Whether there are ladies who will attend the reunion and feel like they have something to prove and will put on a front, I don't know. But what I do know is that I am happy with what I have done with my life. I am happy with the journey I have taken. I am happy that I am who I am and the way I am. If anyone else doesn't like it or I don't meet anyone else's judging criteria then boohoo for you, because I'm quite content being ME!

We worry quite often about what other people think of us. What should matter the most is what we think of ourselves; whether we have achieved the goals we have set for ourselves and whether we have a life we are happy to live. Everyone else's definition of success and happiness shouldn't matter to us if we meet our own criteria.

And....Release

I've been finding it difficult to get over a few events that have transpired last year. I will admit that my mind and the options presented to me by it are not always the best, especially when it's regarding myself. I can give great advice to friends but I often give crappy advice to myself. My plan was to just address the issue head on and speak to the persons that have caused the disturbance. Thankfully I discussed this idea with a friend of mine who suggested that bringing up the issue after so long isn't actually a good idea. It simply gives power to the person(s) involved because it means it's been on my mind. She suggested that I pull up a photo of the person(s) and pour my heart and soul or at least say what I have to say to this picture as if it were the person. After hearing this it made sense to me. Although I am yet to do it (I just haven't had the time to settle down and and focus my mind to get it all out and over it) I believe I will feel better once I have done that. I will no longer have anything on my chest that I haven't said.

Do you think it is a good idea? Have you done this before? Is this something you're willing to try? That being said, don't use this technique for every situation. If you can deal with something immediately, why not? Anyway, I'm off to focus my mind.

Thanks for reading!

-The Empress

Cheers To The Resolutions!

In case you actually don't know, I am a HUGE fan of Those Girls Are Wild! I believe I found out about them from one of my best friends here in Canada and ever since that first video I've been hooked. I follow their blog, subscribe to their YouTube channel and of course I follow them on Twitter as well. These two young women are such wonderful, positive role models for not just women younger than them but even older.

We know how every year people make resolutions saying this year I'll go to the gym, or I'll get in shape or I'll take care of my body and we know that by February more than half those people fall off the band wagon. Don't make large commitments that are difficult to keep. Or if you do, make sure you have it well planned out. Start small and work your way up. Shannon Boodram from Those Girls Are Wild has created a video to help you get in shape! It's simple. I can't say it's easy because then you probably wouldn't see results hahaha, but it's something you can do, everyday even twice a day if you so desire, to get a body that looks amazing. Watch the video, try it out and let me know how it goes.




Happy Exercising!

-The Empress

And the race has began

Classes resume on January 9th 2012 and let me tell you I already have homework for my classes. Readings to complete and things to prepare for class. Now here's where things get different to other years: in the past I might have ran away and said oh I have time to complete these readings and so forth, but this year, that's not how it's going down. As soon as I'm done this post I'm going to go do my readings and prepare my discussion points for the class. This year it's going to be different. I can feel it.

Closing remarks: Don't let the habits of procrastination keep you weighed down. You know what to do, get up and do it. Seize the moment as it arises. Don't let it go to waste.

Best wishes for the New Year

-The Empress

Are You Proud?

You know what, I can't say I'm proud of everything I've done in my life. However, I can say that I have very few regrets. Yes we may do some messed up things, things that in retrospect we wonder what was I thinking?! But even after the smoke clears and and ashes settle we still don't say I wish that fire had never been burned.

I don't regret a number of things because either I've learnt from what has transpired or I've enjoyed what I've done. The few things I regret are things that brought immense emotional pain to me, pain that I really did not need to feel. Yes there are circumstances that we need to go through to better understand ourselves. The circumstances I'm talking about are totally unnecessary. I hope there are no more situations like this in my future. I surely can do without them.


Do you regret things you've done in your life? Or do you have the YOLO kind of motto where you regret nothing and seize every moment. Do share.

-The Empress

Birds of a Feather...

With meaningful cliches like "Show me your friends and I will tell you who you are," out there, it only makes sense to surround yourself with people who are like-minded like you or oriented in a similar manner as you. Their energy coupled with yours is sure to get you far.

I think one of the toughest things in life is letting someone you love or care about go. Be it a family member or a friend. Be it death or just moving on with your life.

I want to touch on the latter. There are times in everyone's life when they change, they grown. When such a metamorphosis begins you want catalysts or least supporting elements with you. Dead weight isn't what you want retarding the process. Sometimes there are peple in our lives that cannot grasp the concept of this metamorphosis. They are stuck seeing the world with rose tinted glasses. How does one deal with this dead weight?

I'm the type of person who has trouble throwing things away (sometimes). I'm not a hoarder. I repear - I am not a hoarder. As far as I can remember I've never said to anyone "Never speak to me again." I prefer the "feed with a long spoon" approach where you gradually decrease the amount of time and information given to a particular person. They find other people to attach to and you continue your growth and development. I'm not saying this is the best way, I'm just saying this is what works for me. I use this method because every so often I like to check up on people, see if they've started their transformation. If they have and they want me to be a part of it, I help and support them. If they haven't, I keep my distance again.

I think with over 6 billion people in the world, there should be at least 2 billion that are not "dead weight." All 2 billion may not be oriented in your exact direction but they should be close enough for you to surround yourself with them.

Not for the "new year" but for life - surround yourself with good people.

-The Empress

Hold Back And Stop Living

I'm a young lady. 24 years old. Good looking. Intelligent. Charismatic, or at least I like to think I am hahaha. I'm also single. And have been single for the majority of my life. Some days it doesn't bother me, and others I will not even hesitate to inform you it bothers every ounce of my being. Many if not all of my closest friends are single, and quite often we sit and ponder the reason for this. I'm not sure where I'm going with this post, but then again, when am I ever?

Today is Christmas and of course I announce that it's 6 months 'til my birthday. This upcoming birthday isn't just any birthday. It's what some call your Champagne Birthday, which essentially means you're turning the age of the date you were born. Not the month, just the date. I'm really wondering where I'm going with this, but still I continue to type and hope you continue to read. I'm sitting here feeling a bit sad because I want a "friend" of mine to talk to me. I know some people will be rolling their eyes and saying well if you want to talk to him, message him or call him. The thing is I have been. I hate being ignored. It doesn't sit well with me at all. Okay, I'm not going to get into this here and right now. Moving on...

What I'm trying to get at is, I've been holding on to a dream and holding out on life because of one person. Because of one person that I know is not doing the same thing, and quite frankly I can't blame him. It's difficult knowing that my entire life can happen and when I'm 60 I reconnect with this person because we were meant to be at that time. Something about this idea scares me. I am admitting it. It scares me to not know when we will connect and connect properly. The unknown of not being able to just live and just do whatever and dive head first into situations and swim out of them easily or barely making it out of the shark's jaw and then coming out of the water into his arms bother me. But I know I can't hold on and stop living because of this fear or this unknown. I have to let go and live. So maybe this is a declaration of some sort; of me saying that I'm not waiting for you or waiting for the right time to come. I'm dancing to the music playing and when the song changes and it's the right time, you will ask to have the dance and we shall dance the night away.

I'm not sure this makes any sense at all. But I choose to live.

Let the planning begin

My exams ended on Monday December 19th and I said I would give myself one week to relax and the next week I will begin my school work to get ahead and plan for my future (as I normally do). Well today is Friday and I'm tired of "relaxing" which happens to be doing nothing or just cleaning in one way or the other.

I'm here more or less alone for the holidays and although I appreciate the time alone I feel like I have nothing to do. I'm sure I can catch up on major reading or watching shows I haven't been able to follow during the semester but it's not the same. I think I'm always under so much pressure that it doesn't feel normal to not be. Anyway, so apart from cleaning and getting ahead in my studies I'm also going to look at the "Where do I see myself in x years." I'm scheduled, correction: I am going to graduate in June 2012 and receive my Honours degree in August 2012 and hence I need to have some sort of an idea as to what I want to do and how I'm going to do it.

I do know that I honestly am not ready to do my Masters just yet. I know there are a number of people who are disappointed in this. Truth be told I'd like to work for about 10 years and then get my Masters. By then everyone I know would have had 2 Ph.D's but I honestly don't care. I can't make decisions for my life based on what other people are doing. I need to make decisions that I feel are best for me and that I can handle. In 5 years time I would like to enter my field of interest with a secure foot. And that is what I am going to do.

I often say there's method to my madness, and I truly believe it. Whether others can see it or believe it is another question, but that doesn't bother me. I know me and what I want well enough. I feel grounded and focused. Now is the time to apply these emotions and secure my dreams. I should have a back up plan, but not just yet. I believe this will work out.

This is just the begin of the my rise to achieve my goal. 2012 is the year when the slingshot will be stretched and released, and I shall be propelled in the right direction to live my dreams. Let nothing stop me, let nothing stop you. We're both going to achieve our dreams.

Don't wish me luck. Help me along my journey.

Best wishes
-The Empress

New Tab!!

Hello hello! As part of my procrastination (smh) I've added a new tab on my blog entitled BOOKS I'VE READ!! Check it out and see the books I've been reading and suggest some new ones for me to add to my repertoire! You can leave the title and author in the comments section or email me at redempressvee@gmail.com

Cheers!
-The Empress

Procrastination

I'm not even sure what's the point of this post. I'm telling you this from the start. I'm on a break from trying to complete a research paper before I begin studying for an exam. I'm trying very hard not to procrastinate, or at least do it as little as possible. Who invented the word procrastination? Maybe if there were no word there would be no action...good rationale don't you think? Procrastination is the demise of many students and even adults. We learn our lesson in the moment and once that moment has past it is lost. So maybe we never learn our lesson at all?? Procrastination...

Okay, no more procrastinating for me. I'm off to do some work. Toodles!